Monday 6 February 2017

Put a ring on it...

It's February !! A month based around the loved up commercialised holiday that's Valentines Day... Oh and Pancake Day, although pancakes aren't really relevant to this blog post, sorry.

2017 and it's another Valentine's Day where I'm single. I'll watch my social media feeds fill up with over priced flowers that die within a week. The date night selfies and she said yes ring finger pics.
Of course I'm happy for all these people but part of me is jealous I admit.
Another part of me sees it as a more modern form of peer pressure that has me panicking and questioning my life choices.

Recently I read about a scheme. (that I wish for the life of me I could remember the name of.) It originated in America (where else) and is all about truly loving yourself.
Remember how America bought us purity rings and pledges of abstinence until marriage ? Well this is a million times better and more doable ...Let's just be honest. sex with someone you want to actually have sex with is fun, natural,plus it feels good.



So this Valentine's Day I'm gonna put a ring on myself and make my own vows. We should all know by now how important loving yourself is before allowing yourself to be truly loved by others.


  • I vow to not be pressured into a relationship by society
  • I vow to stop putting myself down
  • I vow to become more body positive
  • I vow not to allow myself to be slut shamed or slut shame others
  • I vow never to settle
  • I vow to be the best version of myself
  • I vow to care and love myself to the best of my ability so that in the future I'm more open and receptive of love from someone who truly deserves my own


Every time I look at my right hand and that ring I bought myself, I'm going to remember my self worth and those vows I made.
Independent women !!

Any other single ladies gonna put a ring on it?? I fell in love with the idea the moment I heard about it and I love that you can customise the vows to whatever you want.

What do you think??
Charlotte
xxx

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Wednesday 18 January 2017

The Smallest Changes

I don’t want to go into my whole mental health history but to give you some background I’m already on anti depressants for an eating disorder. However they don’t really help with my anxiety and lately that’s been one of my biggest problems (apart from my poor physical health).




I’m trying to avoid adding more meds to my regime as I take a lot of strong and controlled drugs already. I'm really trying my best to cope and manage my problems as naturally and with as little medical intervention as possible.




Recently I’ve found the smallest changes like for instance, changing the lighting in my bedroom slightly, using my happiness planner and changing my bedding colours have all helped lower my anxiety levels. Maybe think about giving a few of these things a try if you're going through something similar. Remember though, everybody's different and what has helped me may not be as helpful to others.




This week I realised I’m also no longer afraid to cry on camera and to me that's really made me feel less isolated.. I’ve always wanted my YouTube channel to be a true reflection of my journey. However it’s obviously always been an edited perspective.


I now feel I can use my channel not only to help others, entertain and be creative. But also as a therapeutic tool. To express my feelings raw










It’s the smallest things that can have the biggest impact.



A short post but a personal one



All my love

Charlotte

xxx



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Wednesday 4 January 2017

HAPPY NEW YEAR !!

I am so late, but what's new eh?Christmas and New year absolutely exhausted me. Then on the second we all went on this family walk, which was was pretty cool for so many reasons, however I really regret not wearing proper shoes.

Anyway HAPPY NEW YEAR !! if you want to see what I got for Christmas there's a video up on my YouTube channel. Oh and did you know I've started a brand new channel? Five days in and it's all go already.

Towards the end of 2016 I started blogging more and I plan to continue with that throughout 2017. I just went through a bit of a funk last summer.

I'd love to know what you'd love to see more of on the blog? Some of you may know I'm very into my trainers / sneakers. I just don't want to post things no-one will be interested in.

Just a quick post today but why not follow along ( buttons on the right hand side of the screen on desktop ) and then you won't miss a thing.

I really want to get more involved with the blogging community this year.

Time to smash 2017 !!
Lots of love
Charlotte
xxx

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